Created to be His...Help Meet | pt 6

Wow, it has been months since I have posted another part of Debi Pearl's, Created To Be His Help Meet. I am drastically behind! However, we're not through yet. Read on for part 6....

Genesis 2:18

And the LORD God said,
It is not good that the man should be alone;

I will make him an help meet for him.

Reactions Define You
A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She does not see herself as "God's gift to men;" therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances.

Reactions are not premeditated actions springing from our best motives, carefully thought out, planned, and weighed. They are emotional responses, breaking loose like wild horses when we feel hurt, cheated, used, or misunderstood. They are often retaliatory, sometimes condemning, confrontational, or adversarial, and eventually vengeful and punishing. Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level. We lose our carefully preserved "front" when we are pressed beyond calculated thinking. Then, who we really are is made manifest. You can control your future reactions considerably by changing the way you think before you are pressed into a response. The way you think every day determines the way you feel, and it will determine how you will react in stressful situations.

Researchers have determined that the average person thinks over 40,000 thoughts each day. The heart is filled with thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks words of praise or bitterness. When the pressure is on, and the dam of reservation breaks loose, you cannot control what you say, because you will speak from the abundance of your heart - from the 40,000 thoughts you had that day, and all the days before. "A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh." (Luke 6:45). If you, as a wife, are going to change the way you have been speaking, it is not a matter of willpower; it is a matter of thought power. "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he..." (Proverbs 23:7). You must bring "into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." (2 Corinthians 10:5). "For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts..." (Matthew 15:19). As Paul says, "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 2:5). You will be "transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2), not by the strength of your will to hold your tongue. God tells you how to think about your role as wife and help meet. If you believe Him, you will think differently.

If I were in an airport baggage pick-up area waiting for my red suitcase, and I saw a young man snatch it and run, I would be very upset until I learned that my husband sent him to get it for me. When my thinking changed, my feelings changed.

You are what you think, and God tells you how to think: Think the truth. This is not the power of positive thinking; this is the power of the truth as God defines it. You are created to be your husband's helper, not his conscience, not his vocation director, and certainly not his critic. No woman will ever have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband, and she is committed to becoming a good help meet for him.

Time to Consider

* We have learned that our created nature is to be a help meet to our husbands.

* We have learned that a help meet is someone who helps her husband in any and all of his life's projects.

* We have learned that the joy of the Lord is our strength and that a merry heart is a real asset in becoming a godly help meet. A smile keeps our man looking our way. Our desire is to become a jolly "playmate" to our husband.

* All of us have decided that we do not want to grow old and become crazy old, religious fanatics who think that they are obeying God while disregarding His written Word. We have learned that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, and we shudder to think we might have ended up being like some of the old reprobates we know who dishonor their husbands.

* We have learned that wisdom is a gift that God promises to anyone who asks. Through wisdom, we have discovered that each of our husbands are made in the image of God, either as a Command Man, a Visionary Man, a Steady Man, or some mixture of the three, with one dominant.

* We know that it is our job as a help meet to always be looking for ways to better meet our husband's needs and desires.


Traits of a Good Help Meet
 
* She asks God for wisdom
* She learns to understand and appreciate her man for who he is.
* She learns to be flexible.


Getting Serious With God
 
Now that you have thought more about your role as a help meet, it is time to go back and add to the list of things you could be doing that will free your husband to be the man God created him to be.

    Running With You,